How To Make No Mistake When Choosing Clothes Or... Wife.

**greenlea** · 01-19-2009, 12:19 PM

Please don't be afraid of reading such a long post. Here is an amaizing
secret of your own faultless instrument for correct decision making. It is
useful for different life situations.

Searching a life partner, we often find ourselves in the same position as a
buyer in a huge store with a large assortmentom. We face one and the
same problem there - the problem of choice. Or in other words - the
problem of clarity of the goal. If the objective is quite clear, that is half
the success. The likelihood of a good choice in this case is 50/50. And if
the process of selection will be also correct, then the full success is
guaranteed. There is an easy way (or tool) by means of which it is easy
to determine the correctness of your choice, that you will never regret
later. The tool is always "on hand" and it does not misfire. This is your
innate intuition (by the other definitions - soul). Each of us had used it
many times in the life, being not always aware of this...

The clearest and simplest example, as well the training of the ability to
define your goals at the same time is finding the necessary clothing for
you. Do please recall, there have been cases where you bought seems to
be the appropriate thing, but later it turns out that you stop like it or it is
not suitable, or has a defect. And it had happened that you have seen
something, bought it immediately without hesitation and are happy with
it for today. The difference between those things is that one of them is
someone's else, and the second one is yours.

The first thing that seemed appealing to you, was intended for another
person, but not for you. Perhaps you saw it on a friend or a mannequin. If
the thing looks good on the other man, it yet does not mean that it will go
for you. And this is not your weakness but your dignity. It is very bad to
be a mannequin, on which everything looks good. It is not the generally
beauty makes the strong impression but the stressed well individuality.

I aware that all of this you know very well without me. However you go
shopping for a long time and agonize, not knowing what to buy.
Knowledge of styles, fashion sense, even a good taste does not help you.
After long searches, you are still not entirely satisfied with the acquired
thing. In order to always find exactly what you need you have to learn
how to distinguish your goods from someone's else ones. How is it done?
You will not believe how simple is it!

First, never torture yourself with the problem of choice. Since you are
clearly in violation of the balance. The more you tighten on this, the
worse the result will be. You do not need to examine things and analyze
their advantages and disadvantages for a long time. The reason should
not participate in process of choice because the mind and it's thoughts is
not YOU, but the swoop from the influence of "the commonly established
views", from advertising finally. Just go and see like at the exhibition,
nothing thinking.

Second, you have to be clear about yourself in general terms, what would
you like to buy. It is not necessarily to represent the details. The only
description is to be the type of clothing. For example, if you need a coat,
just put a goal to choose a coat, and no more extra conditions. Let your
soul choose - it is much closer to what YOU actually ARE. It will not miss
the slightest detail and always tell you in time on your thing. You will learn
about it as soon as among the many things you will see and rather feel
the only one that inspires you a special liking.

Once again I repeat, you do not need to analyze why do you like the
thing. You just like it and you can say about it «this is the right thing I
need». You will buy it without thinking.

Even if you're looking for it for a long time and you can not find it, no
doubt, there is your thing in a some store. If there is not in the third one,
then in the tenth store you can find it. It patiently waits for you so that
you also be patient, do not thrash about, do not torture yourself with a
doubt and do not reproach yourself. And to make the confidence absolute,
I'll reveal the secret of distinguisher between other's thing and yours one.
It is as easy as well.

As I have said, during the selection process, you should not think about
the benefits and disadvantages of the thing. But the moment when you
must tell the seller your «Yes» or «No» has come. At this time you are
very sweet sleeping, even if you think that this is not the case. Your
sleep is particularly strong if there are either seller or your friend beside
that tells you about the thing.

While you are deciding, your mind only is working. It analyzes the
advantages and disadvantages, it builds it's own concept and makes it
soundly and persuasively, but at the same time it listens to the views of
others. The mind is so absorbed into the process, that it really does not
pay attention to the feelings of the soul. In this sense, the mind is firmly
sleeping.

Let it be, do not disturb it until it takes action. And now the decision is
made. Attention! At this point, don't listen to anybody, wake up and be
aware of: what are the feelings you had when the decision was taken?
Was it a condition of mental comfort will show you the attitude of
the soul to decision of your mind.

Mental comfort, as you know, can not give you unambiguous answer. The
soul does not always knows exactly what it wants and can also vary. If
you liked the thing at first sight, and you soon felt it, then the soul said
«yes». But afterwards the mind turns on and starts to analyze and justify
the choice. If as a result of the analysis your mind also said «yes», it
means that the thing is yours. If you liked the thing not at first sight, but
as a result of rational justification, then you should particularly pay
attention to the slightest spiritual discomfort. The soul has a remarkable
feature - sometimes it does not always know exactly what it wants, but
(Attention!), it always knows exactly what it does not want to! Herein
lies the secret of the correct choice.

If you hesitate, if anything in this thing you have is mild anxiety or
discomfort, if light shade of doubt or oppression runs - this is not your
thing. The mind will start to persuade you and colorfully to paint all the
dignities. If you caught yourself that you are coaxing yourself, trying to
convince you that this has both good shape and size as well - you can
immediately without regret reject this thing - it is someone's else but not
yours.

Unequivocal selection criterion is in one simple phrase: if you have to coax
yourself, the thing is someone's else. Do know it: if the thing is yours, you
do not have to coax yourself.

And finally, whether in the selection process you should listen to the
views of others? I think not. No one except you, will be able to choose
your thing. If you liked it unconditionally, you can be absolutely sure that
when others will see it from you, they come into raptures.

In conclusion, let's get back to love affairs, to the question of choosing a
wife. There is an ancient Eastern parable. At a Bazaar a dervish
(peripatetic sage) is siting. Many people apply to him for solving their life
problems, and he helps everyone with wise advice. A richly dressed young
man approaches, puts a coin in a bowl for donations, and respectfully
askes.
- Oh, wise! I really need your advice.
- What's your question?
- The fact is that I am in love. I like a very good and beautiful girl from a
respected family and would like to marry her. Give me adviсe dear, should
I marry her or not?
- Do not marry her!
- ???
- If you really wanted to marry her, you would not ask anybody.